Friday, January 29, 2010

Communicating (yep this is where you use your mouth)

Communicate with Your Partner

Probably the toughest sex act is the verbal one, especially for new parents who have little private time. But talking about sex after you've had a baby is almost as important as doing it. You and your partner will both benefit from honest discussions about how having a child has changed your sexual needs and expectations. Don't forget that your partner probably has as many issues surrounding your brand-new sex life as you do, Winks points out.
For instance, your partner might have trouble adjusting to the idea that his lover is now a mother, or feel jealous of that little person who dominates not just your time, but also your heart. Both of you will need to summon all of your self-awareness and communication skills in order to avoid falling into ruts or developing resentment, Winks explains.

A good way to approach even the most intimate conversations about sex, says Foley, is to make open-ended statements and ask your partner to share his feelings about the same topics. Some examples include:

"My most exciting sexual moment with you was..."

"The part of my body that I feel most self-conscious about is..."

"The thing about sex that I'm most uncomfortable with is..."

"My favorite part of making love to you is..."

If you find these kinds of topics too tricky to discuss, write the answers on a piece of paper and then swap them.

If you do get into a thorny discussion about your sexuality -- let's say you're feeling too flabby to take off your nightgown -- be clear and direct. Use "I" statements, says Winks, such as "I feel so unattractive with this extra weight,"rather than defensive or accusatory words. Then be prepared to compromise, by offering to light a candle or wear a more revealing nightgown, for instance.

Most important, go into these talks with a generous spirit, advises Winks. Just as you have every right to your sexual feelings, so does your partner. Seeing the situation from the other person's point of view will help you approach any discussion with more understanding.

LOVE yourself

Love Your New Body
Great article had to share again true

Stretched out, flabby, and fatigued is how many women would describe their bodies after childbirth. The added pounds and downright messiness of new motherhood leave many women feeling so unattractive that they're uncomfortable with the idea of merely taking off their clothes, never mind letting someone else touch their body. So how do you go from feeling like a baby factory to feeling like a sex goddess? Here are a few tips.

1. Don't compare yourself to Cindy Crawford. Or any other celebrity mom with a nanny and a full-time personal trainer for that matter. If you can accept your body just as it is, you may discover that sexuality is less about slinky dresses and more about having a powerful body that can do wonderful things, says Cathy Winks, coauthor of The Mother's Guide to Sex (Three Rivers Press).

Making this mental transformation takes time, because it flies in the face of the current societal ideal of women whose lips are bigger than their hips. But you can do it, especially if you look at other women in the mall, in the gym, and at the beach. The reality is that the average woman is a size 14, says Morgan, and that reality can be clear to you if you just open your eyes.

2. Put together an exercise program. Find one that's compatible with your new postpregnancy regime. Don't do this because you want to lose weight (though you might), but because regular exercise will boost your energy, confidence, and sexual health. As Foley points out, exercising is the closest thing we have to a fountain of youth. It helps our bodies maintain nutritional and hormonal balance. And it boosts our mood because it releases feel-good chemicals in the brain.

In fact, the sexual benefits of exercise may be as potent as the fat-burning ones. For instance, the physical flexibility that results from exercising also contributes greatly to the comfort and pleasure of sex with a partner, especially if you want to try more adventurous positions.

3. Believe your partner when he says you're sexy. Women are more likely than men to buy into the idea that skinny and young is the only way to be sexy, observes Foley. But the truth is that most men respond visually to a wide range of women. The majority of new dads will tell you that they found their wife as beautiful on the day they got home from the hospital as on the day they were married.

4. Take yourself for a test drive. To really understand and reinhabit your postpartum body, you should find some time for yourself in the bedroom, says Foley. Try undressing and touching your body all over. Use a hand mirror and your fingers to find out what feels overly sensitive to the touch and what feels good. Taking this little bit of time alone -- even just for two minutes a day -- will help you return to your body after this momentous event. This sort of private time is crucial to rediscovering your sexuality after motherhood, says Winks, because then you can show your partner how and where you enjoy being touched now. In fact, she goes one step further, suggesting that every new mom needs to figure out what makes her feel good before resuming sex.

Why Sex GETs Better

Why Sex Gets Better
Found this great article please read

The common wisdom is that sex makes little babies and babies make for little sex. However, there's an astonishing flip side to this story, and it's one you rarely hear. Before parenthood, couples often think sex gives meaning to the rest of their relationship, says Elisa Morgan, president of Mothers of Preschoolers International and coauthor of Children Change a Marriage (Zondervan). But the truth is that many women report that their sex lives are better after they become mothers.

Better sex after motherhood? Who knew? Lots of women, it turns out. Simply sharing the experiences of parenting makes it possible for couples to discover new reasons to desire each other. Many women say that they feel an incredible new respect and love for the father of their children.

And surprisingly, there are many physical changes postpregnancy that may make your sex life better than ever, too. Sensory experiences after childbirth can be more intense, says sex therapist Sallie Foley, coauthor of Sex Matters for Women (Guilford Press). Certain women enjoy the additional sensitivity of their engorged breasts while they're nursing, she notes, while others claim that although orgasms may take longer to achieve due to fatigue, the sensations can be more physically profound.

Cheri Van Hoover, an assistant clinical professor of nursing at the University of California, San Francisco, School of Medicine, speculates that increased blood flow during pregnancy increases pelvic congestion of the vaginal area and engorges the genitals -- perhaps permanently enlarging blood vessels and making the genital area more sensitive to stimulation.

Rediscovering your sexuality after motherhood provides fresh opportunities to deepen your understanding of yourself as a sensual being and to explore new levels of intimacy with your partner. Read on for some tried-and-true tips to get you feeling sensual and sexy again.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Do you aprove on

What do you say when a spouse wants to wake you up for SEX?
  • NO !
  • YES!

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

The Millionaire Matchmaker Quote

"Every 10 expects a 10, and the only way you’re gonna get a 10 is if you become a 10. There’s no exception to that rule."

The Millionaire Matchmaker - Photos - Classic Patti Zingers Bravo TV Official Site

The Millionaire Matchmaker- So true, do you agree

Women are like crockpots they heat up real slowly to a nice simmer, men are like microwave they go A to Z schwing.

The Millionaire Matchmaker - Photos - Classic Patti Zingers Bravo TV Official Site

Monday, January 25, 2010


  1. SEX IS GOOD FOR YOU ! Realeases stress
  2. SOUL MATES (you need a recipe for that)
So get going look these over and use that sexy brain and come up with something hot and steamy for your man. If you want it you need to go and get it :) For the forplay in the moring flash him or touch your nipple in a playful mood while the kids are watching cartoons and your getting your coffee. give him a little nibble and whisper that there will be more to come tonight!! Ohh you will get him all fired up .

Saturday, January 23, 2010

The Love Letter

This is a great way for the guy to think of you all day long at work . Write a short but detailed sweet love letter any kind you want , from erotic to sweet and innocent. The choice is yours and how well you know your man . Then after you are done writing your letter secretly put it in his lunch box or pocket to his pants or coat, anywhere really he would go to first at lunch time . Even the middle console of the vehicle works ,on The visor ubove his head. Wen he reads it it will put a sweet smile and a devilish chuckle on his face. Then he will be counting the hours of when he will be able to come home to thank you for such a sweet gesture and for thinking of him. This is great at any time during the month or year it dosnt have to happen everyday . He will probably secretly keep that letter as well:) as for I have found one of my old letters that I worte my fiancee still in his lunch box LOL. They treasure those and enjoy the spark you put under his feet all day. He will probably come home with flowers or some wine even a movie for a movie night. Try it then comment on my post , I want to see what your guys thought of it.

Friday, January 22, 2010


YES ladies if their is ever a free minute that the kids are taking a nap or outside playing , at a friends house or just feel asleep for bed time . That is the time to be Spontaneous!!! And he most likely wont say NO to you he will love the spontaneous sex and will hope for more. So remember to be extremly spontaneous, Put a movie on that the kids enjoy quarter way through and they are glued to that tv ITS TIME !!!! Walk briskly to anywhere you can close the door lock it and rip off those clothes it will be the most enjoyable sex ever. Your kids will be fine they are worried more on the Movie than anything else lol. Been here and done it ...and I have twins and a 9 year old boy LOL. Try it then come back and comment !!!

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Welcome to my new ROMANCE blog for MOMS

There are always ways to find time for romance . I know you are saying yeah right when ? Well every relationship NEEDS sex or any kind of romance in it to survive and thrive. For all you NEW mommies out there you are trying to juggle everything and keep the man happy. Men are hard to keep happy ,RIGHT? Think back to when you two were first dating or first married without any kids, you would have to admit the sex was GREAT and there was tons of it. And the romance that they showed or tried to show was wonderful and romantic. Well now that we are either stay at home moms or working moms married or together where has all that gone lol. Everyday I will have a tip and or Product to enhance your romance back into your relationship.And any articles that will help you get that spark you desperatly need back into your lives. Hope to see you back here tomarrow for the first tip .